We all have addictive behaviours.
But how can we help clients who are struggling with addictive issues that is over taking their life.
Original Edition September 17, 2015 Supporting Client Let Go Of Addictive Patterns
As a therapist who played various roles in work; as coach, advisor, healer, teacher I worked with clients with a range of life challenges. But the most important thing I believe every healer, therapist or teacher is there to do. Is give their clients or student back their own power, by guiding them or teaching them skills that ground and support them to make much healthier changes.
We are their to support clients or students into empowerment. It doesn’t matter how far someone thinks they have went. That unconditional acceptance and support helps them recognise deep down they are enough.
But so often the therapist or healer unconsciously or consciously takes the clients power, taking the role on of healer, fixer, master. When clients can completely take no ownership for their own healing, expecting the therapist or healer to FIX them, CURE them, almost expecting a magical pill. Another key area in many people’s life’s where they continue to take no responsibility or ownership for their life or they way the deal with their presented challenges.
A common problem is the client who moves from therapist to therapist, healer to healer. Never sticking long enough to one thing or constantly expecting someone else to do the work. That is why it is so vital we always give some power or responsibility back to the client. Help them face their have anxiety, stress or dis-ease in their mind, body, emotions? What in their life needs attendance or needs to let go? But so many traditional healers and body workers are don’t recognise this as a major issue, they are not aware of issues like co-dependency that they fall in the trap of believing they are the heale. Which on an energetic and physical level can be even more disabling for the client.
One simple but very valuable skill is using soft socratic questioning on their habits and their daily routine, this can be very effective at helping them become more aware of triggers, habits, beliefs, conditioning.. . Even asking simple probing questions around their daily routine, sleeping or eating habits such as do they stay up late glued to TV or facebook. Do they really need that chocolate bar or glass of wine every night they believe they have had a hard day. Or that constant rushing, working, maybe only eating when they remember. Asking clients general day to day questions around their hobbies, socialising, relationships can help reveal a much greater bigger picture.
By simply Increasing AWARENESS on someone’s unhealthy addictive habits that they didn’t see, can be a major awakening. We all use have different degrees of distractive patterns we use to hide from our pain, our shame, our loneliness, our rejection, our fear. When the reality is when we fully ACCEPT it and FACE it fully, it loses it’s power over us.
Another great tool is to encourage the client to CHANGE their daily routine, especially around typical scenarios that trigger the behaviour. I worked as a laser therapist/counsellor for smoking and drug addiction. When someone was giving up smoking, one of the suggestions was to encourage the client to change when and where they had their cigarette. So if they used had a cigarette with coffee before getting washed, breakfast etc we would encourage them to get washed and dressed, sit at breakfast perhaps in a different seat, to replace coffee with something else for at least a few weeks, anything that would break that connection. Addictions are often reinforced habits so its important to break any correlations.
With even a little bit of awareness, enquiry and positive suggestion, we can give clients back so much of their own power, their own self healing.