As a healer, coach or therapist we are here to empower clients towards their own self healing and own self realizations.
Even the healers are not the healer or the fixer. We are simply here providing the tools, the space, the guidance to encourage the client or student into a space where self healing can occur.
We may traditionally view someone who requires healing or fixing as the person who has clear physical, mental or emotional disease. But the stark reality is every human being has their own dis-ease. Each one of us has our own human battle; some are just viewed more serious or less palatable than others; the drug addict or alcoholic is viewed far more negatively than the workaholic, the control freak, the ego maniac….But we are all here with human flaws, with hurt, rejection, loss, fear, trauma…we all need to be loved, cared for, supported, accepted and empowered.
How To Empower Clients Who Expect You To Do All The Work
But sadly in a world where we can order many things at the push of a button. Many clients expect and want quick fix, magic solutions where someone else does all the work. They want the therapist or healer to do all the work without taking any self-responsibility or action.
Healers, therapists and coaches are their to support, empower their clients not to take their power away. We are not here to take their responsibility away, control the healing process but to hold a safe space for that person to self heal.
But sadly more and more healers are being pulled into the modern myth that they can FIX people, their technique is the magic tool that makes miraculous results. That they are the hero when the reality is.
No 1_You are not the fixer, the body, the mind and emotion has tremendous capabilities to self heal in the right situations.
No 2_When you don’t hand the power back to the client, you can create dis-service and dis-empowerment to the client consciously or unconsciously. As they then believe something outside them self, someone greater than them has healed them.
No 3_In this sort of mind set or space a therapist would be coming from the ego not from a true healing space that is in the best interest of the client.
No 4_Underneath it all we are all perfect, we are god’s essence and when we all wake up and realise. We will have not want or need to be healed.
But clients sadly come to many of us, with miraculous expectations or from the deepest pain desperately wanting be anywhere else than where they are right now. So it is vital you as the coach or healer is in the right space. And the only way you can do this, is if you are in a state of balance, in a state of peace and stillness.
As someone who has studied healing and meditation for over 25 years and taught meditation and stress management for mostly 16 part of these years. I have witnessed how much powerful but simple stress management skills not only help clients but the coaches and therapists who want to do the most powerful work. So if you want to fully empower yourself and your clients it is vital you are holding that client from a safe supportive space. And the first place to start is making sure you are coming from a place of calm and great peace.
I see so many coaches and therapists struggling with their own daily anxiety and stress. They turn up for sessions more exhausted and fragile than calm and confident. Not exactly in the right space to empower clients effectively. The reason I identified a great need for my new stress management module for coaches part of the new Calm Coach Kit and made module 1- Stress Management.
YES an amazing opportunity to learn powerful techniques and top tips from myself a Stress Expert who has been teaching to local education, health and charity sectors for over 15 years.