4 Ways THERAPISTS CAN HELP Empower Clients
As a healer or therapist, our role is to help empower clients towards their own self-healing and self-realization when we can. Not to enable clients, not create co-dependency issues that keep clients in a state of dependency and disempowerment.
Sadly, so many therapists and healers today lack awareness and insight around issues like co-dependency. So much so, they are actually disempowering their clients. As someone who has been studying in the holistic industry since the early 90’s, I believe a lot of this comes down to the way they were trained. And distortions many people have around therapy, healing, and even coaching.
UNDERSTANDING THE ROLE OF THE THERAPIST
What is the role of a therapist? Well, it does obviously depend on what type of therapists you are. But therapy in general is about supporting clients and patients through difficult challenges in a way that is healthy and empowering. Is about moving them towards a positive goal, not one of reliance.
It is one of the reasons I actually became a trainer, a teacher, a mentor, not just a healer or therapist.
Why Therapists And Healers Are Not The Client’s Healer
Therapists and Healers are not the healer or the fixers; we are here as a channel or tool to help clients achieve a state of inner balance and to help empower clients. We are simply here providing the space, the guidance, or the tools to empower clients or students into a space where self-healing can occur.
We may traditionally view someone who requires healing or fixing as the person who has a clear physical, mental, or emotional disease. But the reality is every human being experiences dis-ease and dis-empowerment. Each one of us has triggers and wounding that show up in different ways, not always visible or through health challenges.
Some types of dis-ease or wounding are just more obvious and recognised. Society views the drug addict or alcoholic more negatively than the workaholic, control freak, ego maniac….But we are all here with human flaws, with hurt, rejection, loss, fear, trauma. We all need to be loved, cared for, supported, accepted, and empowered.
That is why knowing how to empower clients, not judge, rescue, or fix. But sadly, too many healers don’t have the awareness to see that their clients don’t need to be fixed but supported. One of the reasons many healers create dis-empowerment and co-dependency issues. Failing to move clients on to their next stage of evolvement. This is something I became very aware of early on in my career as both healer, student and client.
How To Empower Clients Who Expect You To Do All The Work
But sadly, in a world where we can order many things at the push of a button. Many clients expect and want a quick fix, magic solutions where someone else does all the work. They want the therapist or healer to do all the work without taking any self-responsibility or action.
Healers, therapists, and coaches are there to support and empower their clients, not to take their power away. We are not here to take their responsibility away, control the healing process, but to hold a safe space for that person to self-heal.
But sadly, more and more healers are being pulled into the modern myth that they can FIX people, their technique is the magic tool that makes miraculous results. That they are the hero when the reality is.
4 Ways To Help Empower Your Clients Today
No 1: Recognise You Are Not The Fixer or Saviour
The body, the mind, and emotion have tremendous capabilities to self-heal in the right situations. You, as the healer, are not the rescuer, fixer, or saviour.
No 2: Give Your Client Back The Power
When we don’t consciously hand back the power to the client, we can create disservice and dis-empowerment to the client consciously or unconsciously. As they then believe something outside themselves, someone greater than them has healed them.
No 3: Let Go Of The Ego’s Need To Control The Outcome Or Situation
It is important to get out of our own way and not let the ego get so tangled up in an expected outcome that we are controlling the situation. Come from a state of stillness and peace, a true healing space that is open to whatever is in the best interest of the client. I see so many therapists and healers so attached to a specific outcome that they end up projecting onto the client.
No 4: Help Your Client Recognise They Are More Than Enough
Underneath, we are all perfect, we are god’s essence, and when our clients and we wake up and realise that. We heal as we recognise our strengths, our greatness, our perfection.
Supporting Vulnerable Clients
Sadly, many clients come to us with miraculous expectations or from their deepest pain. They desperately want to be anywhere else than where they are right now. So it is vital that you, as the coach or healer, are in the right space. And the only way you can do this is if you are in a state of balance, in a state of peace and stillness.
As someone who has studied healing and meditation for over 30 years and taught meditation and stress management for nearly 25 of these years. I have witnessed how powerful but simple stress management skills not only help clients but also the coaches and therapists who want to do the most powerful work.
Providing A Safe, Supportive Space To Empower Clients
So if you want to fully empower yourself and your clients, it is vital that you are holding that client from a safe, supportive space. And the first place to start is making sure you are coming from a place of calm and great peace.
I see so many coaches and therapists struggling with their own daily anxiety and stress. They turn up for sessions more exhausted and fragile than calm and confident.
Not exactly in the right space to empower clients effectively. The reason I created the Relaxation Therapist Tools & Techniques For Coaches and Therapists. This program is packed with a variety of powerful, simple, easy to use stress management tools.
YES, an amazing opportunity to learn powerful techniques and top tips from me, Eileen Burns, a Stress Expert, Soul Empowerment Coach, and healer.
