Are Your Goals Killing You?- Unhealthy Goal Setting Mistakes

Biggest Most Common Goal Setting Mistakes- Are Your Goals Killing You?

So many people are setting themselves up for huge disappointment and stress by setting goals from the wrong mental and emotional state.

Dreams and goals can be the biggest motivating force that helps us through difficult situations. But when someone sets out to complete a goal or dream at any cost, it can be an individuals biggest source of stress and major cause of serious health challenges.

top goal setting mistakeAre you making the most common goal setting mistake?

Most goals and dreams never give people the happiness and contentment they desire because the motivation behind that goal is distorted, unhealthy and is made for all the wrong reasons.

We can all dream of a more magical life but if we cannot live in the moment, enjoy or accept each moment or experience as it comes, we miss the chance to enjoy peace right now just as things are.

Goal Setting can be very helpful to achieve and break down many tasks, career and lifestyle changes. But if we only focus on the future, believing we will only be happier when this or that happen’s…you are not in the moment and are coming from a place of lack.

Sadly most of us society is in this mental state, we are constantly living in our head, in potential stories of the future. Not in the right here, right now, where you we are supposed to be.

 

The Wrong Tyes Of Motivation With Unhealthy Goal Setting

Most goals come from a place of not being enough or not having enough… we think if we get that better job, we will be more happy, more accepting, more loved, more secure, more free, more independent…but often or not when we get that, we realise there is always more, more, more… We need more help to fix the stress that comes with that new job, new relationship, those bigger commitments…

The Sad Symptoms Of The Wrong Goal Setting

For too long I met many clients who had spent decades on achieving that great job. But by the time they got to where they wanted, they had all sorts of health complications or relationship/ family breakdowns, exhaustion, stress, depression, anxiety… So are your goals killing you? So many people don’t notice until it is far too late and the damage has been done.

Most of these clients ended up spending most of their hard-earned cash on fixing, buffering, soothing the demands of their crazy hectic life; housekeeper, babysitter, childminder, fast food deliveries, dog walker, iron service…and not forgetting those extra costs of stress and health, the osteopath, the counsellor, personal trainer, weight and yoga class…

They soon realise too late that is wasn’t really the job, new home or relationship they wanted. But what they thought that job, home or relationship would actually make them feel or give them. Many assumed they would have less pressure, more freedom. Most really craved for a much more simpler, peaceful life.

The biggest problem is most people set goals from fear and their monkey mind, they focus on temporary distorted wants they think will fix their unhappiness, rather than heart based wishes  that come from their soul.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

That is why when a client comes to a life, business or stress coaching session with myself I always help clients explore the reasons behind a goal, a dream a lifestyle change. I usually use soem form of meditation to get them out of their head into their heart. Sadly too many coaches fall into old fashioned coaching styles that are aimed at only achieving the goal. More spiritual and holistic based coaching helps clients look at a much wider and deeper perspective. And really question their beliefs, ideas and what they really want underneath it all.

A regular meditation practise is an  important way to get out of your head and to open what your heart and soul really wants. It also teaches you how to be in the moment experience more calm, confidence and clarity.

 


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About stresscoach

Hi I am Eileen Burns, stress-coach. I have been studying holistic welbeing, stress management, healing and meditation for over 20 years.I teach powerful meditation and life skills to help clients manage their stress, their life, their anxiety and health challenges.

7 Comments

  1. Great thought provoking blog Eileen, thank you for sharing x

  2. Great post Eileen – it made me think about goals that we sometimes have that are not even ours – they are someone else’s, they are what we think we should aim for… Sian
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    1. Definitely Sian- most people are often not aware what triggered that goal or why they wanted something in the first place. And most never revisit their goal to see if it is still serving them.

      1. Ah yes – we should never assume that goals remain the same and we should revisit them regularly 🙂
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  3. Interesting. Yeah, setting goals is good, but setting them in a way that chokes you isn’t.

    1. Exactly I wish more people and coaches could see that 😉

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