How To Make Simple Changes In 2018 For A More Stress-Free Life
Do you yearn for a much simpler stress-free life? So many people want simpler stress-free living but don’t know where to start.
So how do you start by creating a more stress-free life in 2018?
The challenges of creating a more simpler stress-free life is that we are so conditioned in this life. We are so used to chaos and busyness that letting go of what isn’t healthy can be stressful. But the facts are every single one of us can make powerful yet simple changes towards a more stress-free life.
List of Gratitude– I know this may not be what you expected but start listing all you have, yip. One of the biggest ways to a more simple stress-free life is to start focusing on what is really important. And to see clearer what they really have. Have you a home, running water, enough to pay the gas, electricity food, is your family healthy. In this list, focus on what you have and what you can do in your life, not what you can’t. In today’s society particularly in the west we take so much for granted. Many people think they are poor when in-fact they are rich. How many extra clothes, shoes or things do you own or have in your home?
List what you NEED– What truly make someone happy? Is it really netflix, designer clothes, the new car or home, actually no. These things are fleeting and often bought from a place of not enoughness. Often we buy things because we think unconsciously or consciously that they will make us be more accepted and loved, appear more attractive, more respected, admired, looked up to. It can be a lovely experience to have wonderful things but sadly more and more people are nearly killing them-self to achieve things that won’t give them what they really need and want. And that is a deep acceptance and love for them self, then you start to see what really matters. You soon recognise the car, house, designer dress isn’t going to take away the pain. One of the reasons so many people who appeared to have everything are now downsizing their life.
List what is IMPORTANT– What is really important to you is it your family, your values, ethics? Think back to your younger self, was there anything that was an integral part of that child or youthful self that has been lost. As adults we sometimes get lost in life, in what we think others want, need, our boss, partner, parents…What deep down is still important, it doesn’t matter if it isn’t something you have looked at for a while. Address it now, sometimes we lose sight of the most simple things in life that gave us true pleasure. Or maybe as we have got older, had kids or responsibilities we suddenly have a reality cheque, that our kids health and happiness is far more than the fancy car, house and even our false friends the Jones’s. Whe you get clear on what is really important, you start to let go of what is just superficial. It is always about what you focus on.
What You Do Want– begin by planning the type of life you really want and I am not talking about financial freedom. I am talking about what is important for your health and happiness and your heart. So many people think that it is financial freedom that will give them the health and happiness and although it can help sometimes this is not at our core what creates a happier or healthier life. That is one of the reasons many people never reach their goal or why most who do aren’t still happy or content. Because they made the fatal mistake of believing the new house, new job would be the solution. And for many the new job, the new house has been their biggest stressor and pressure.
Start Listing Things You Or Your Family Don’t Really Need– Now be brave list all the things you have or do that if things drastically changed in your life they wouldn’t be important. Don’t worry you aren’t going to eliminate everything ( unless you want to lol), this is about opening up your perception. This is about helping you get a bird size view of your life, think of the things you may need to let go of if you were emigrating or all the things a young family from the slums in India might look in awe that you have in your life. Look at all the things we do have in our life that are extra’s, those additional subscriptions you have signed up such as Sky, newspaper, apps, those coffees, lunches…And make a note of the cost in a year, most people are quite surprised when they look at their costa coffee bill for their year or if they took a sandwich to work instead of the local deli.
Start De-Cluttering– What physical things in your life do you need to let go of, that is adding extra chaos, this is something I need to constantly work on. I was brought up in a big family where we were taught to keep and save everything to be reused or re-utilised. Be honest what do you really need, what do you really use, what is just gathering dust. If you could do with some extra cash there maybe a few things you could sell. Let go of the old and free your energy up for the new
List What You Need To Start Saying NO To– Maybe you need to start saying NO at extra hours or clients at work, maybe you need to say no to other commitments that are exhausting and leaving you with no family time. Maybe you need to say NO to the things in your life that are not healthy or not of the best interest for your happiness, to that sweet treat or dessert, cigarette, glass of wine, addiction to facebook or that TV program.
List What You Need To Say YES To– Although creating a simple-life is mostly about de-cluttering and eliminating it is also about balance and including things that make you happy. Remember the best things in life are free, friends, family and love. List those activities that you and the kids love, especially those thts don’t cost a penny or very little, start making them a priority over the things that are depleting you energetically and financially.
Need some help to clear what you want and what is important? That is a common challenge when we are so busy, anxious or stressed we can feel a bit lost and confused. Meditation can be a great start, as it helps you let go of that inner chatter and brings you back to the self away from the outside world. It is a powerful tool that helps us make better decisions and self-enquiry. Check out my FREE Traditional Breath Meditation Course, want a little more help, why not book a one to one session.