Why I Became A Stress Management Trainer, Relaxation and Meditation Teacher than just a healer, therapist,* and coach. Why I believe we need more teachers and mentors in the holistic and wellbeing sector. And why safe and effective practice became so important to me.
My Journey Into Becoming A Stress Management Trainer
Like most healers, and therapists I studied and tried many many modalities and tools before actually starting my business and becoming a Stress Management Trainer. I began studying Reiki, Meditation, and Stress Management in the early 90’s then soon later counselling, coaching, a variety of different holistic therapies, psychology, psychotherapy, and different forms of healing.
As someone who had a very complex health history that mainstream medicine had little understanding of and no treatment for I found myself pivoted into the world of holistic wellbeing at a young age. I had a strong interest in self-empowerment, self-help, and spiritual development. But at my core, I just wanted to get my health back, recover from extreme exhaustion, lack of mobility and heal my eye as I was suffering from threatened eye loss.
So as you can imagine I needed to find ways to cope and manage my own stress and anxiety. I was offered no support or help so, I began studying lots of different courses on Managing Stress, and Building Stress Resilience, alongside studying different forms of meditation.
I remember one of the first open college courses I did while being housebound, one written by the award-winning psychologist and psychotherapist Professor Stephen Palmer. This was not just a great introduction to stress management and stress resilience but it was a great taster into how wide the subject of stress management was. Stress Management is a huge topic and includes many different stress management approaches.
I would go on to further my training in Stress Management through a variety of courses such as the Open University and through Stress Education Services and Caledonian University where I qualified as a Stress Adviser and Advanced Stress Adviser Course with the highly respected Alice Muir.
Why Teaching Stress Management And Life Skills Was So Important To Me
But at my core, I knew teaching was a huge part of my purpose. As someone who was very much discriminated against and neglected around one of the conditions when I was diagnosed with M.E., I learned very early on that most of this journey was going to depend on my own empowerment.
You see in the late 80’s early 90’s many medical doctors, psychologists and counselors thought M.E was not real. And most of us had horrendous and dangerous experiences. Now even though I had other very rare and serious conditions it was my M.E that impacted most of my quality of life.
Because of the general misinformation and miseducation of the medical system, many of us ended up with a lot more complex conditions. There were more than a few occasions when I should have been hospitalised but my parents were very concerned about how I would be treated. And one of the occasions I did end up in hospital, my immune system was so low I ended up catching another infectious disease in the hospital. And even though I was admitted to the hospital extremely ill and hardly able to move my arms, my legs one Doctor told my parents he was very concerned for my mental and emotional wellbeing because of the very distorted views that some of the doctors in the hospital had around M.E.
It was only by sheer determination, the self-help, anxiety, and stress management techniques that kept me sane, that kept me strong. And basically, my parents paying for all sorts of holistic and alternative treatments when I was really ill and was struggling to get benefits did any of my health improve.
I realised very early on in this very isolated journey how important stress management, stress reduction, and stress resilience was. At this time in my life, I also became acutely aware of how my own lack of self-esteem, self-worth, and lack of assertiveness had impacted not just my own life but how these are common issues that impact us all.
So my desire to teach holistic approaches to health, meditation, relaxation therapy, and stress management became very very strong.
Why I Feel So Strong About Safe And Effective Practice
I also wanted to make sure I was first and foremost a safe and effective therapist and healer because along my journey I had faced not just a lot of prejudice but shocking and harmful practices. Honestly, I could tell you some crazy stories about some of the shocking things I experienced or witnessed. But also I had so many practitioners tell me this would definitely help, this will work and more than I care to remember was a complete waste of time. In fact many of these types of therapies and types of healing I should never have been using.
Some things we can only learn through experience but the reality is there is no need for a lot of harm and malpractice. It does not come from ill intent, but it can certainly come from lack of training or poor training or lack of awareness. Especially nowadays when fast-track training has in many ways become the new norm for a lot of types of healing and therapy training.
The reality is no matter if we like it or not, there is only so much you can teach a healer or therapist in a few weekends. And most training schools sadly don’t focus that time on safe and effective practice. Often because it comes down to money and people just wanting a certificate or more tools.
What I noticed was that in certain modalities such as counselling, psychotherapy, or even coaching these courses tend to be more in-depth, you are taught about all the things not to do or shouldn’t do. You do lots of client case studies and supervision to ensure your doing things safely. But sometimes people mean well they just want to help people but are not aware of where their own skillset and strengths start and finish.
So self-awareness is such an important skill in therapy, coaching, and healing work along with the right training. This is one of the reasons that led me to be a trainer, a teacher, and a mentor to other therapists, coaches and healers. I was getting constantly asked to offer training in certain areas one was because organisations had previously for example healers doing things that weren’t that safe for their clients.
So it wasn’t just my own experiences of poor practice that drove this strong desire to encourage more safer and effective practices. But also a long list of clients and students who came to me after feeling more damaged by the therapists they saw.
I believe very strongly that in any form of medicine, healing, holistic wellbeing, and 3…3……626self-help it is important that we DO NO HARM FIRST. And we empower the client or student, to take their power back, to make their own choices, and take self-responsibility. I believe today that too many people hand over their health and wellbeing to someone else.
My Role As A Stress Management Trainer, Relaxation Therapist Teacher
Now today I am a Stress Management Trainer to Therapists, Coaches, I offer an Online Stress Management School which provides Online Stress Management Courses and Accredited Relaxation Therapist Training. I provide courses that train therapists to teach relaxation techniques, teach stress management.
Because I believe the world needs, people need to learn how to become more empowered in their own health and wellbeing. Most people today don’t know how to manage and reduce their own stress because of such unhealthy conditioning and lifestyle distortions. Although I was mercury poisoned and I had what appears to now have been tick bites at a young age, I like you had a lot of anxiety and stress and didn’t know how to manage it.
I Believe The World Needs More Empowerers, Teachers
The world needs more teachers, mentors that teach people how to be, how to live the way we are supposed to live. More and more people want to learn things like meditation, but like everything, there are right ways to do things and there can be lots of harder ways to do or learn things. That is why I became more of a Stress Management Trainer, Meditation Teacher, and Relaxation Therapist Teacher to therapists and coaches.
So I see my role is not just about teaching the teachers, but helping those teachers be more highly effective, to question things, to look at things from not just one perspective but from different perspectives. And that is why in my Stress Management and Relaxation Training For Therapists we explore lots of different relaxation and stress management techniques and approaches to suit different clients’ needs.
Everyone is unique and has different ways of looking at the world. Every client that comes to you is at different stages in their own awareness in their own life and spiritual journey. The more that we can bring them back to themself, bring them back to a more natural we of being we help them live the life they were born to live. That is why I LOVE supporting the empower’s and teachers of the future.